Counseling For Women - Discovering Your Voice To Cope With Relationships, Loss And Anxiety

By Stephen Daniels

The constant stream of internal conversation in your mind that is present even when you aren't aware of it is called self-talk. Within all that chatter is your voice -- the part that expresses who you are at your core. Being able to listen to your own voice and utilize positive self-talk can help women more effectively deal with loss, anxiety and relationship problems.

Often, however, finding one's own voice amidst the rest of the chatter is not an easy task. Remarks of parents and other significant people from throughout your life can replay in your mind and become so entangled in your thoughts that sorting out which are your own ideas and which are appropriated from others is a challenge. Seeing a qualified therapist with experience in women's counseling can be a great help in identifying these various thoughts.

Learning the difference between your voice and the internalized chatter of others is important. Your real voice represents your true feelings, wants and needs. It also reflects logical expectations and outcomes. Qualified counselors have several different methods to aid you in this process. Working as a team with a counselor, you'll learn to tune into your self-talk and notice what it says about how you react to events or situations. This will help you identify unreasonable thinking and replace it with positive, reasonable thoughts.

Using your voice to express feelings of loss, irrational anxiety, or frustration over not achieving the relationship you have desired is the first step in healing. Your feelings are valid and deserve attention, no matter what you are experiencing.

Learning new habits and methods of thinking can be challenging, but positive self-talk can make a night and day difference in your relationships and in how you face issues like loss and anxiety. As you strengthen your own thought processes and learn to counter the other, more negative thoughts that have formerly been prevailing, problems that formerly seemed insurmountable are put into perspective and become manageable.

Discovering your own voice, which is really reinforcing your self image, and using it to express your feelings and thoughts in positive ways will help you more effectively deal with just about every problem you must face. It can help you achieve greater personal integrity, and become the woman that, deep down, you have always wanted to be. The right professional counselor is an invaluable resource throughout this process. - 32543

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